During my 2 years of Peace Corps service:
I’ve been lied to, mocked, cheated, stolen from, humiliated, scorned, resented, mistrusted, abused; I’ve similarly been accepted, admired, respected, celebrated, assisted, encouraged, housed, fed, supported – loved.
I’ve made a mastery of bucket baths & bathing in (maybe) 3 liters of water; I’ve survived on roughly 60 liters of water for a week or more. I’ve had amoebic dysentery, twice, and bacterial diarrhea more times than I can count. I’ve used a hole in the earth as my “bathroom.” I’ve shared mugs, utensils, plates, banana leaves, straws with strangers out of cultural respect; I’ve eaten bugs, solidified cow urine, goat intestines, and countless foods I can’t identify; I’ve eaten tomatoes and onions –only– for weeks; I’ve drunk a liter of milk a day during the rainy seasons.
I’ve been spit on for luck. I’ve had a mushroom pop through the wall of my mud house. I’ve urinated in bushes, maize fields, cow stalls, behind a stack of mud bricks –you name it– because latrines are still an anomaly. I’ve been pinched, punched, pulled, grabbed and squeezed by men. I’ve been groped, slapped, smacked, pushed, and hugged by women. I’ve received, on average, 5 marriage proposals and 7 marriage offerings a week – a week.
I’ve been relentlessly ogled at as though I were a golden dinosaur. I’ve fallen asleep every night to a buzzing symphony of mosquitoes outside my mosquito net. I’ve read, prepared lessons, and studied by candlelight. I’ve ridden 3-people-to-a-moto more often than not. I’ve had entourages of up to 30 babies accompany me on walks. I’ve never been in a space in, near, or around my village without seeing a person as every square inch is inhabited, cultivated or used as farmland for cows and shepherded by herd boys – there are people literally everywhere, at every time of the day, always.
I’ve walked several miles a day, to and from my health center and my school. I’ve witnessed and partaken in real progress and development. I’ve taught, trained, assisted, advised and have received the same. I’ve cracked a molar from stress. I’ve gotten bedbugs & fleas. I’ve had spider bites the size of quarters, rats eat my food and nest in my clothes, and snakes try to slither into my home. I’ve lived on a dirt road that melts into muddy chaos after the rains. I’ve seen, on more than one occasion, baboons blaze into a neighboring village, steal bananas, and be chased by children half their size.
I’ve nightly gazed at millions of brightly glinting stars. I’ve awoken to the sound of cows and roosters in the morning. I hoed and cultivated my own land. I’ve attended 6-hour church services with regularity; I’ve danced with the congregation until the dust cloud was too thick to breathe. I’ve attended 10+hour weddings and, in many of them, I’ve outshone the bride and groom as the honored guest. I’ve swallowed a fly, or two; I’ve seen flies die mid-air because it’s so, so hot. I’ve had my spirits lifted, despite my mood, at the sight of a tiny child running full speed at me, eyes alight with glee, shouting my name with arms open wide to launch a hug around my legs.
I’ve not simply survived, but done well. I pioneered a new Peace Corps site – many of the villagers had never seen/interacted with a foreigner – establishing Peace Corps, volunteerism, American females, and friendship. I garnered faith and trust within my village and beyond. I was daily humbled, and I failed more often than I succeeded. I learned to communicate effectively in Kinyarwanda – an African Bantu language, a crazy, inconceivably difficult language, useless outside Rwanda. And I did it to succeed – to succeed in serving for a cause greater than my own.
I did it because I believe in people and the power of love. I did it to share what I have for good; to live, work and serve in the name of friendship for the progress of humanity. And I did it because I can. And if I can, I must.
The perspectives, attitudes and motivations I’ve gained living in Rwanda are life shaping. Thank you Rwanda. Thank you Rwandans. Thank you family and friends. Thank you Peace Corps.